20 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF ON YOUR BIRTHDAY

TLD HER: 20 QUESTIONS

Today, I’m answering the set of 20 Questions to Ask Yourself on Your Birthday, from my new book, 20 QUESTIONS (Vol. 1) because…IT’S MY BIRTHDAY!

Listen to the first half of the 20 questions on this week’s podcast episode; you can listen on Spotify or at www.tldher.com. The second half are answered below. Thank you for being here and for celebrating another trip around the sun with me—cheers to me, cheers to you, and cheers to the future.

What are three things I want to remember about this past year?

I’d like to remember all the amazing career moments from this year. Every entrepreneur says that these are the moments you will never get back - the moments when you can feel everything shifting and know you are on the cusp of change, success, etc. I feel like this is the beginning in so many ways, and I hope I can always look back on this year and remember how it has felt to finally have so many of my dreams manifest in real-time.

I’d like to remember how amazing my female friends were/are this year. Through all of the good, the bad, and the in-between, my friendships have kept me afloat. I am now at a place in my life where my ego has dissipated, and I have realized the importance of allowing people to support me and be there for me. It has opened new doors in many of my friendships, and the vulnerability of having amazing people love me for who I am has been freeing me.

Lastly, I’d like to remember how good it feels to take my energy back and to live my life for myself before I live for everyone else. I’ve spent nearly 30 years putting everyone before me, and recently, I have come to realize just how detrimental that has been. I hope I can remember that every time I prioritize my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, my life feels infinitely better.

How can I better take care of my physical health?

I am physically at my best when I am doing some sort of movement/working out at least 5 days a week. I’d also like to make sure that I continue to maintain a vibrant social life that allows me to physically engage with people who I love and laugh with a lot – I am at my best when I am laughing. With that said, cutting back on some of the social drinking is hard to do when you live in New York City, but I know my physical health is better when I get more restorative sleep and wake up with a clear head. Sleep is a whole different story, but I would also physically and mentally be a different human if I got more than four hours of sleep a night.

How can I better take care of my mental health?

I finally know what peace feels like; now, it is my priority to protect it.

Boundaries + Pleasure = Freedom.

What is something I would like to accomplish this year?

Career-wise, I have a LONG list of things I’d like to accomplish, starting with getting the TLD HER community offline…stay tuned!

Personally, I’d like to accomplish some sort of physical challenge – I don’t exactly know what that is yet, but I’d like to work toward something physically.

What is something I want to give up?

Guilt. All of it. I want to fully rid myself of any and all guilt, especially when it comes to relationships & obligatory events.

What is something I want to take up?

I keep wanting to say pottery when asked this question. I feel like I need something to do with my hands other than write or scroll.  

How will I better establish and communicate boundaries this year?

I think communicating boundaries is sometimes just about the energy that I give off or take on. I would like to be clearer about the things that I do and don’t want to do and be able to honor my feelings. I guess I would like my actions to speak louder than my words when it comes to establishing and communicating boundaries this year.

What is something I want to change about my life?

I’d like to be able to feel more financially free this year. Entrepreneurship can be unstable, and I finally feel like I’m getting ahead of the curve.

What is something I hope never changes?

I hope that everyone I love stays healthy (myself included).

I hope the confidence I have right now – mentally, emotionally, spiritually, relationship and career-wise, physically – lasts forever.

I hope I continue to foster beautiful relationships.

I hope I impact the lives of others for the better.

I hope life surprises me and that I stay open to experiencing everything.

If anything were possible, what does my dream life look like?

My dream life looks like doing whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I want.

I’m pretty damn close to it right now.

BONUS: Tell me something good.

It’s my BIRTHDAY! Make a wish!